Dr. Mark does not use traditional ”talk therapy”, which often falls short of its goals, especially when working with young men. He uses The RIGHT Way® method of education, which uses a “biological and personal growth” model (and a healthy dose of tribal wisdom), in order to improve family dynamics. By avoiding complicated psychological concepts, he shows parents how to more effectively handle the toughest issues they're facing in raising their challenging teenage son.
His expertise is grounded in his up-close and personal experiences with thousands of young men who've seen him for private mentoring or who have worked with him at his nonprofit's rite of passage initiation event (the Young Men's Ultimate Weekend). He's learned what young men really need, what they really want, and how parents can effectively communicate and motivate their sons to do the right things.
During the sessions with families, Dr. Mark skillfully combines the discipline of tough love, the compassion of tender love and the guidance of mentor love. When working with parents, Dr. Mark shows parents how to maintain their authority and influence while teaching them how to reduce competitive conflict and increase cooperation.
His ultimate goal is to transform the parents and son's values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors, laying the foundation for their son to become independent. His coaching has helped many homes reduce friction and become a more positive, peaceful place.
The first session with Dr Mark and the parents is 90 minutes long. It costs $275.
The goal of the first session is to make an assessment of the root problems between the parents. Dr. Mark will also make a comprehensive appraisal of the quality of the relationship between the parents and their son. He'll learn more about the trials and tribulations of the son, with the intention of avoiding any unnecessary spending on therapists, doctors, medications, or therapeutic boarding schools. During this first session, he'll also determine if there are any medical or psychological issues that need to be addressed by other health care professionals.
After completing his evaluation, Dr. Mark will recommend an action plan which will focus on how he can best help the parents and their son move the son's life in the right direction. Most importantly, in the first session, there will be guidance on how to make simple, practical, positive changes with the challenging son.
Unless there's an immediate emergency with the son (violent behavior, drug, alcohol or digital addiction, failing in school, severe depression), Dr. Mark, using The RIGHT Way® method, will work first with the parents for approximately 6 sessions.
Each subsequent session (after the assessment) is 55 minutes and costs $200.
|clearly define their values so their son understands them|
|maximize their masculine and feminine gender roles, so the son has a greater sense of clarity and security|
|minimize their in-fighting and disagreements with each other|
|stop reacting to their son's defiant behavior|
|demonstrate (adult) choices instead of (childish) consequences|
|foster daily cooperation with their son|
|respect and channel their son's biological wisdom|
|stop treating their sons like boys by mentoring their sons to become independent|
|Dr. Mark will work with your son after Dr. Mark is clear about the exact values the parents wish to instill in their son. Once he's convinced that the parents are willing and able to use the skills that he's taught them, he'll begin working with the young man. This typically occurs between 4th and the 6th session between Dr Mark and the parents.|
Dr. Mark is a huge advocate for young men, holding them in a high regard. However, he does not sugar coat the challenges of adulthood and the skills they'll need to learn to be successful on their own. Dr Mark is frank with them that their indifference or aggressiveness will not help them to face a demanding future. At the same time, he provides a safe space for them so that they can freely voice what's true for them. He's expert at getting them to really express all of their past pains and frustrations. This helps the son to calm down and open him up to listening to other ways of thinking and behaving.
Dr. Mark uses a mentoring model whose foundation is the belief that young men don't need to be fixed. He'll help them discover who they are and how to interact with society in a way that allows them to get what they want, while giving others what they need.
|discover their values and develop their strengths by participating in healthy activities|
|ask for help without losing self-respect|
|turn their disinterest into self-motivation|
|harness their biological urge to get out into the world|
|overcome their fears of failure and rejection|
|minimize lying and maximize honesty|
|acquire the skills they'll need to become independent|