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Frequently Asked Questions 

Thanks for taking a few minutes to learn more about how Challenging Teenage Sons can help you.

The first section handles the most commonly asked questions about how we help parents and their sons.

The second section outlines the various levels of membership we provide for you.

Feel free to contact us with questions and comments. I want to hear your concerns and truly appreciate your feedback.

What is the Method I'll Use to Help You with Your Son?

In 2000, I created The RIGHT Way® method of family unity. This integrates the sciences of adolescent brain development, parent bonding, personal growth and stress management. It's a concrete, proven system that shows parents how to restore caring and cooperative relationships with their challenging preteen and teenage sons. The method guides young men to become more responsible and independent.

The RIGHT Way® recognizes there is no one right way to successfully lead a household. First, our method will help you to figure out your own values and the behaviors consistent with them. Then, it shows you how to communicate and demonstrate your values in a language he'll understand and want to copy.

Secondly, the method shows you how to help your son discover and master his own authentic values, so that he can learn to trust his own innate wisdom and skills.

Finally, The RIGHT Way® helps parents and their sons share their values so that everyone is supported to live a fulfilling and meaningful life.

The RIGHT Way skillfully combines the discipline of tough love, the compassion of tender love and the guidance of mentor love.

 

How Is My Method Different Than Other Approaches?

Many parents bring their teen age sons into counseling or medical treatment because they're confused and frustrated by the dramatic shift in their son’s behavior. They're especially puzzled because their son had a normal, happy childhood.

Since most young men are resistant to "talk therapy" and don't want to take medications, our RIGHT Way® method quickly gets to the heart of the underlying issues. Applying the principles of the method helps both the parents and the son make immediate improvements.

The RIGHT Way® is grounded in my up-close and personal experiences with thousands of young men who've seen me for private mentoring or worked with me at our nonprofit's rite of passage initiation event, The Young Men's Ultimate Weekend (www.ymuw.org).

My work with families is not founded on untested theories, unattainable expectations or unnatural manipulations of young men. I've learned what the young men really need (a safe space to really express their fears and desires), what they really want (everything you can think of and more) and how parents can effectively communicate and motivate their sons to do the right things.

We've had the satisfying experience of helping households resolve their conflicts and become a more positive, peaceful place.

How Does The RIGHT Way® Work?

You may have to acknowledge that you're part of the reason you have a challenging teenage son. I wasn't able to restore my relationship with my teenage son, Gabe, until I accepted that my old school method of parenting (yelling, threatening, withdrawing, making up rules, and other ineffective tactics) wasn't working. As long as you're willing to participate in the process of reuniting your family, this method will help you achieve your goals.

The method is based on a “biological and personal growth” model of maturity. It avoids complicated psychological concepts. Instead, it teaches you how to instill your values in your son while helping him discover his own values. The process then transforms everyone's values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors.

The RIGHT Way® shows you how to effectively engage young men so that they will reveal what they're thinking and feeling. With that, you'll know how to relate to your son in a way that he understands. This will prevent both you and him from thinking that he needs to “be fixed” or to be “saved” from himself.

Most importantly, the method is based on principles that have practices which are easy to implement. It includes techniques to keep yourself calm and clearheaded, as well as details about the RIGHT Way® to challenge your son to give his best to all his endeavors. This program is designed to have your son regain his self-respect and guide him to become more independent.

Why Is Parenting Teen Age Sons So Hard Nowadays?

For thousands of years, parents have had the assistance of their community in raising their children to be healthy and content with their lives. Today’s parents have it much harder. They must compete with digital devices that present conflicting multimedia messages about how to attain a meaningful family life.

Young men are drawn to people who are self-confident, practice self-discipline and who live with integrity. These role models know that their mere presence will guide the relationship. If parents don't have a Path or a Way, and are not consistently modeling an organized set of values, beliefs and behaviors, their sons will withdraw from them, go "another way" and choose someone else to follow.

To minimize the harmful messages of media's role models, I educate parents how to overcome commercialism. I'll show you how to use your wisdom in order to optimize your authority and influence, and to stimulate your sons to make intelligent decisions. Inspired by insights from our tribal roots, our method strongly emphasizes the use of community mentors to guide young men to do the right thing.

What's the Benefit Of Being A Member?

Over the years, lots of parents have been referred to me by friends of theirs who've been happy with our work. Unfortunately, some of the parents who called me were not able to afford private sessions. I decided to make my coaching skills available to more parents by creating a series of membership options. This allows parents to budget how much they can spend and still get extremely valuable tips and techniques to help them deal with their challenging sons.

Our coaching calls, newsletters, interviews, seminar videos, podcasts, live seminars and private coaching all provide useful, clear information to immediately help you deal with this son of yours, whom you love so much, but is driving you crazy. Please look at the videos from both our parents and young men throughout the website. You'll see how our method impacts the lives of all family members, moving everyone in the right direction together.

What are my membership options?

You choose how much information and help you get by joining at a level that's right for you.

As your son matures and changes through the years, we want to be present for you on every step of this journey. We want to help you raise the happy and healthy son you've always wanted. We're here to mentor you and your son to help work through the challenges that will always arise.

We understand that as your son gets older, there will be improvements and your level of participation may need to change. No problem. You can always change levels.

Gold Level

You get our informative monthly newsletter and an interview with Dr. Mark and a highly qualified parenting expert, focusing on one particular issue with raising a challenging teenage son. You also get access to the Member Only Page - where we have tons of useful tips and techniques for you – articles, blogs, newsletters, videos, podcasts, Dr Mark's "White Board" talks, and much much more.

Most importantly, you'll be joining a community of parents every month, for two, 1-hour “tele-coaching” phone calls. Dr. Mark will discuss a specific parenting - son issue each time and then answer questions from parents about “what to do next”.

Diamond Level

You get all of the monthly Gold Level benefits AND:

At this level, you get a more access to Dr. Mark. At Diamond Level, you get two additional, 1 hour tele-coaching calls per month. What’s different here is that there are only ten parents on each telephone call, which means that you'll get some personalized attention.

Platinum Level

You get the monthly Gold Level benefits.

This level is for parents who want personalized “face to face”, coaching time with Dr. Mark.

We do this with two, 90 minute group coaching sessions. You'll be with no more than ten parents, all of whom are meeting face-to-face with Dr. Mark.

You'll get your specific questions answered, plus you get to hear about the problems that other parents are facing and what they're doing to solve these problems. We extend our “face-to-face” opportunity with the use of Skype, so that even parents who are at a distance can join us.

Personalized One-on-One Coaching

This is your opportunity to sit down with Dr. Mark and get the precise kind of help that you and your son need.

Dr. Mark first meets with the parents to help them uncover the ways they're alienating their son and to clearly define the values they wish to teach their son. He teaches the parents how to effectively communicate to their son, using the wisdom of adolescent brain science and positive psychology.

Then he meets with the young man to help him understand how he's alienating his parents and to clearly define his own values. Dr. Mark works his magic as he teaches young men how to get what they really want from their parents (respect, support….) while teaching him how to give his parents what they need (respect…)

Finally, Dr. Mark will teach the son the skills he needs to become more independent (relationship skills, finding a career path, improving sports performance).

We have lots of different one-on-one coaching options for you, so that you can choose exactly the kind of coaching you feel you need. You can choose from a one-time session, a package of sessions (which we recommend, if you want to master the method as fast as possible), or even have Dr. Mark "for a day".

When you call Dr. Mark, he'll recommend that you have an Initial Consultation, after which, you can decide together what your next steps will be.

 

How Do I Sign Up For Gold, Diamond, Platinum or Private Coaching?

Go to the Membership Page by clicking here. Decide which level of coaching you want, and authorize payment with a Visa or Mastercard. You are welcome to change your level of participation by calling or emailing us. We'll be happy to change your status within thirty days of your notice.

How do I access the “Member Only” website?

Simple. After you return to the Home Page, look for the “Member Only” button, in the top right corner. Click on it, enter your log-in and password, and you’re in.

Join Now

There's lots of reasons parents are having the hardest time in history raising their sons to be happy and productive. One of them is that parents no longer have the support of a "village" to model the right values that young men need to consistently observe and copy.

Societies used to benefit from reliable mentors, who showed the sons how to use their masculine wisdom as the way to enjoy both their own self-respect and the respect from their family and community. In today's world of media mania, commercialism and instant gratification, families are losing the attention of their sons. The result is a household of conflict and decaying relationships.

Having Dr. Mark's mentorship for both the parents and their sons can re-establish a caring and cooperative bond. Without outside help, our sons are at an alarmingly high risk for entitlement, irresponsibility, laziness, poor scholastic performance and emotional problems as well as drug, alcohol and digital addiction. 

Dr. Mark's expertise in using The RIGHT Way® method will give families the knowledge, techniques and resources they need to lead their sons toward a successful adulthood.

 

Help

The two best ways to move you and your challenging teenage son in the right direction are to: 

1. Join one of our three Membership Programs These programs include: our monthly newsletter, monthly interviews, blogs, videos, podcasts, tele-seminars, webcasts, lots of articles, live coaching, phone calls and live seminars. All will provide you with useful, clear information to immediately help you deal with this son of yours, whom you love so much, but may be driving you crazy.

2. Get One- on-One Coaching for you and your son

Other Ways

Even as a non-member, you will always have free access to our blogs as well as to some of the podcasts, articles, tele-seminars and webinars on our Home Page.

Please review the testimonials from both our parents and our young men to see how our RIGHT Way® method has positively impacted the lives of all family members, helping to move everyone in the right direction, together.

Family Memberships

Over the years, lots of parents have been referred to me by friends of theirs who’ve been really happy with my coaching work. Unfortunately, some of the parents who called were not able to afford the private coaching sessions.

It made me sad that I couldn't help the parents who needed me, so I decided to make my coaching skills more available by creating a series of three valuable membership options. These allows parents to choose how much they want to spend, while still getting valuable tips and techniques to deal with their challenging teenage son.

Membership Options

You choose how much information and help you get, by joining at a level that's right for you. We understand that as your home situation improves, your level of participation may also change. No problem. You can always change levels. And, if you are not 100% satisfied with these levels of participation, you can cancel at any time.

Gold Level

You'll get our informative monthly newsletter and a monthly podcast of an interview with Dr. Mark and a parenting expert, focusing on one particular issue with raising a challenging teenage son. You will also have access to two podcasts every month, four weekly blogs, and two “White Board Talks” (see below for explanation of this important benefit).

Most importantly, you'll be joining a community of parents every month for two, 1-hour “tele-coaching” phone calls. During each call, Dr. Mark will discuss a specific parenting-son issue, and then answer questions from parents about “what to do next”.

You'll also get access to the Member Only Page, where we have tons of useful information for you, including:

1) Our archived monthly “Helping Our Teenage Sons” newsletters filled with insightful tips and techniques.

2) Our archived monthly interviews with guest experts

3) Our archived podcasts, recorded with our expert, Dr Mark

4) Archived podcasts of Gold Level “tele-coaching” calls (and transcripts of all of the calls)

5) Archived podcasts of Diamond Level “tele-coaching” calls (and transcripts of all of the calls 

6) Articles that Dr Mark has written about working with challenging sons

7) All of Dr Mark’s archived blogs 

8) Videos of Dr Mark's classes and workshops. Watch his live classes and learn from him at home, whenever you want.

9) ArchivedWhite Board” sessions. During Dr. Mark's private, one-on-one coaching sessions, Dr. Mark creates written summaries, which highlight the lessons given to both parents and their son. Watch how Dr Mark helps parents and sons who have problems similar to yours.

10) Free Registration at two weekend parenting workshops every year (a $500 value for the 2 weekends)

11) Links to other websites that provide resources which may also help you

Sign Up Gold

Diamond

1) You get all of the monthly Gold Level benefits, PLUS:

2) You get two additional, 1 hour tele-coaching calls per month. What’s different here is that there are only ten parents on each Diamond Level call, which means that you'll get more personalized attention.

Sign Up DiamondPlatinum

You get all of our monthly Gold Level benefits.

This level is for parents who want personalized “face to face”, coaching time with Dr. Mark.

We do this with two, 90 minute group coaching sessions. You'll be with no more than ten parents, all of whom are meeting face-to-face with Dr. Mark.

You'll get your specific questions answered, plus you get to hear about the problems that other parents are facing and what they're doing to solve these problems. We extend our “face-to-face” opportunity with the use of Skype, so that even parents who are at a distance can join us.

Sign Up Platinum

Personalized

Families

Dr. Mark does not use traditional ”talk therapy”, which often falls short of its goals, especially when working with young men. He uses The RIGHT Way® method of education, which uses a “biological and personal growth” model (and a healthy dose of tribal wisdom), in order to improve family dynamics. By avoiding complicated psychological concepts, he shows parents how to more effectively handle the toughest issues they're facing in raising their challenging teenage son.

His expertise is grounded in his up-close and personal experiences with thousands of young men who've seen him for private mentoring or who have worked with him at his nonprofit's rite of passage initiation event (the Young Men's Ultimate Weekend) (link to YMUW). He's learned what young men really need, what they really want, and how parents can effectively communicate and motivate their sons to do the right things.

DrMark

During the sessions with families, Dr. Mark skillfully combines the discipline of tough love, the compassion of tender love, and the guidance of teaching (or mentor) love. When working with parents, Dr. Mark shows parents how to maintain their authority and influence while reducing competitive conflict and increase cooperation.

His ultimate goal is to transform the parents and son's values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors, laying the foundation for their son to become independent. His coaching has helped many homes reduce friction and become a more positive, peaceful place.

Process

The first session with Dr Mark and the parents is 90 minutes long. It costs $275. 

The goal of the first session is to make an assessment of the root problems between the parents and their son. This includes a comprehensive appraisal of the quality of the relationship between the parents and their son. He'll learn more about the trials and tribulations of the son, with the intention of avoiding any unnecessary spending on therapists, doctors, medications, or therapeutic boarding schools. He'll also determine if there are any medical or psychological issues that need to be addressed by other health care professionals.

After completing his evaluation, Dr. Mark will recommend an action plan which will focus on how he can best help the parents and their son move the son's life in the right direction. Most importantly, in this first session, there will be guidance on how to make simple, practical, positive changes with your challenging son.

Next

Using The RIGHT Way® method, (LINK), Dr. Mark will work first with the parents for between 3 to 6 sessions. This gets the healing process started.

Each subsequent session (after the first assessment) is 55 minutes and costs $200.Goals

  • clearly define their values so that their son understands them better
  • maximize their masculine and feminine gender roles, so the son has a greater sense of clarity and security
  • minimize their in-fighting and disagreements with each other
  • stop reacting to their son's defiant behavior
  • demonstrate (adult) choices instead of (childish) consequences
  • foster daily cooperation with their son
  • respect and channel their son's biological wisdom
  • stop treating their sons like boys by mentoring their sons to become more mature

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When

Dr. Mark will work with your son after he is clear about the exact values the parents wish to instill in their son. Once he's convinced that the parents are willing and able to use the skills that he's taught them, he'll begin working with their son. This typically occurs between 3rd and the 6th session between Dr Mark and the parents.

What

Dr. Mark is a huge advocate for young men, holding them in a high regard. His relationships with young men are excellent because he accepts and respects them as they are. He simply shows them how to discover their own intelligence and use it wisely.

However, he does not sugar coat the challenges of adulthood and the skills they'll need to learn to be successful on their own. Dr Mark is frank with them that their indifference or aggressiveness will not help them face a demanding future. At the same time, he provides a safe space for them so that they can freely voice what's true for them. He's expert at getting them to really express all of their past pains and frustrations. This helps the son to calm down and open him up to listening to other ways of thinking and behaving.

Dr. Mark uses a mentoring model, whose foundation is the belief that young men don't need to be fixed. He'll help them discover who they are and how to interact with society in a way that allows them to get what they want, while giving others what they need.

GoalsMen

  • discover their values and develop their strengths by participating in healthy activities
  • ask for help without losing self-respect
  • turn their disinterest into self-motivation
  • harness their biological urges to get out into the world
  • overcome their fears of failure and rejection
  • minimize lying and maximize honesty
  • acquire the skills they'll need to become self-reliant

Payment

1. You are invited to start your coaching with Dr. Mark on a session-by- session basis. Each session is 55 minutes, and costs $200.

2. OR: You can schedule 12 one-hour Sessions for $2000 (a $2,400 value). Based on Dr. Mark's experience, the most effective coaching sequence typically is: 3 to 6 sessions with the parents, 4 to 6 sessions with the son (by himself) and 2 to 4 sessions with both parents and son.

3. Have “Dr Mark For a Day” If you decide you need intensive attention, then Dr. Mark can spend a day with you and your family. This is from 8 am to 8 pm. Of course, you would need to have a few private sessions before, in order to gain maximum value from this kind of focus. The cost for the full day coaching is $1,900.

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